Twinkling lights and colorful cookies, these are the things of December. Every year I wait for Christmas. I want to see big, glittering signs that say, "Be Merry," then walk through Old Town with all the bells and whistles that add that sweet, homey cheer. As this year is drawing to an end, we've come upon the 8th day of Christmas, and the tree must soon come down, I feel sad. I'll be missing familiar carols, gingerbread houses, and spiked egg nog, or "egg nog with extra nog," as we call it here. The peppermint forest is a magical place (a spot in my heart reserved for Christmastime), but it wouldn't be half as magical if we got to stay there all year. I say goodbye...reluctantly, but thankfully.
Now, you may not share my feelings on the month of Christmas. I know not everyone is excited about loud music, endless colors, long lines, and glitter stuck in carpets as I am, but we might share a few thoughts regarding New Years.
How do you feel about New Years?
I'm terrified, excited, and exhausted. "What is coming, and what on earth could top the events of last year?"
Personally, I am looking forward to telling more stories via Verity Vareé, getting in shape for my second half marathon, playing music with my best friend, baking more, writing more letters, reading more, and numerous other things. However, I feel small in the presence of my potential to become...to be someone, to do something great. If I didn't think I could it might be a little less intimidating. But, I think I can, and it's terrifying.
Do you know what I mean? Maybe you feel like you can't be or do what you wish, what you dream of. Then I guess you'd just feel depressed. "Well, look at that, another year. Whoopie." But, if you think you can, you may feel an immense sense of pressure.
Unless it's just me, which is entirely possible!
Regardless, I am learning this lesson about choices that I want to share with you. A choice is your choice and no choice is also a choice. Say that ten times fast. The point is, you make choices and you have to own them. We often say, "I have to blank, blank, blank." "I have to get up in the morning, I have to go to a work meeting, I have to wash my hair." Well, no you don't. I say "I have to take care of the baby," but the truth is I don't have to. No one is forcing me to bend down and pick him up. It's a choice. It's a choice I make because I love him. That's my motivation. A choice is a powerful thing. This is simple, I know, but I believe it is also profound.
We can make a choice to change a life. We can make a choice to clean our house. Choices matter and are an integral part of the every day rigamarole of life. So, in the new year you will make a choice, but if you remember that it is a choice that YOU CHOSE, you can determine whether it is good, or bad. But, recognizing it's yours, that you own it is the first step. Own your desicion.
A small choice every day will add up, just like a bad choice every day will add up. We all know that if we eat a donut every day it will add up to negative poundage, but few of us recognize that 15 minutes of exercise a day will also add up in a positive way.
A plane going one millimeter off course over time can land him in a completely different place than if he'd been over one millimeter. It's the same for you and I. If we make a choice we have to be smart about it.
I use SMART to set goals and make choices. It's been an incredible help to me as I attempt to run a business, serve beautifully and sacrificially in my family, and maintain loving, caring relationships all at the same time. It ain't easy, this things they call life. Your's is hard, too, I know it is.
I guess I just want to say that whether you feel overwhelmed by all that you are attempting to do, or you feel so defeated that you don't want to do at all, that it starts with one choice. We've all heard, "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time."
Well, I am raising a child one diaper at a time, learning to be a wife one conversation at a time, getting in shape one day at a time, Revealing the truth about beauty here one story at a time.
Saying goodbye to Christmas is always hard, but I hope to venture into this new year with a little less trepidation and a little more excitement as I make a daily choice for the things I value, the people I love, and the practices that have become my life.
As Henry David Thoreau said,
"Things do not change; we change."
What choices are you making in the New Year?
How do you feel about the New Year?